Two Things That Have Changed My Life…
N. Nezamy
Leaving your home country is scary and it is not easy. Sometimes I feel lonely, missing family and friends, but it is always worth it. The lessons you will learn are more precious. The way you should stay strong and how you are moving forward to your goals is making you a person that you have never been. Yes, it’s difficult, but after traveling to other countries and starting a new life definitely you will feel some changes in your life. Since I arrived in the United States, I have had two big differences in my life. The two biggest changes which are very important for me were motherhood and starting a new life without family members’ help.
When I arrived in the US, I was pregnant. I was feeling overwhelmed and always missed my family. After my babies were delivered l didn’t feel lonely anymore, I promised myself to be a strong mom, should learn the language, and work side by side with my husband to make a better life for my kids. My motherhood started with hugging two little angels, which are twins (a boy and a girl). That moment was the happiest and special moment of my life. It was too difficult to raise two little newborn babies without any help and at the same time it was during the Covid-19 pandemic which made the situation even worse. There was nobody by my side except my husband. I was hospitalized for five days after my babies’ delivery as I had high blood pressure after surgery, so the doctors didn’t let us leave the hospital. Although we were alone in a very hard situation, but we were very happy and stronger than before. My kids have changed my life. They motivated me and taught me how to be an invincible woman in my life. When they both started walking, talking and playing I just loved to look at them and felt myself a very lucky mom. And that was the first thing that has changed my life since I arrived in the United States.
The second thing that has changed my life was being apart from my family members and loved ones, which enhanced my personal abilities and now I feel much stronger. When I was in my own country, I never faced difficulties. Whenever I needed help my dad and my mom were there for me and they never left me alone. After marriage, it was also the same. My husband, my father-in-law and mother-in-law always were by my side, but after we immigrated to the US, everything was hard for me and I always felt alone, especially when facing even a small issue in my life. Though the US is called the land of opportunities, at the beginning it was a little bit difficult. What I mean by that is, starting everything from zero in a completely new country, where you are not familiar with society and the culture might be challenging. The magic point is that I tried to take these challenges not just as blockers in front of my success pathway, but I took them as opportunities to learn and empower myself. It is a general fact that parents will never be by your side and one day you will need to stand on your own feet. I changed my vision and mindset about the challenges that I was facing and from there I could strongly stand against them. Now I feel stronger, and I am going forward to become even better mother for my kids and a stronger woman in a complete meaning.
In conclusion, there is no one in the world with an easy life, in fact everyone has some sorts of challenges in his/her life. Each step of our lives is full of difficulties which can sometimes destroy and break us, but at the same time, these challenges and difficulties can make us stronger and better day by day. We just must change our mindset about them, by accepting all the challenges as part of our life and start working hard to address them one by one, these challenges not only will not eliminate you, but can prepare you to be stronger for the next challenge. We should accept that, challenges are endless, and they will come one after the other, but if we accept them, they can even make us better and stronger day by day.
